Boy, I sure set myself up by putting aside an entire page just to talk about me, didn’t I? Now I have to justify this space with something interesting…

I’m a 30-something, divorced-but-newly-engaged mother of one, and a recent re-transplant to the great state of Texas (insert your own “yee haw!” here).

I came here, among other reasons, to go back to school. After wondering what I was going to be when I grew up for what felt like my entire life (and even after I’d already “grown up”), I had an epiphany in 2003 and realized what I really wanted to be was a sex therapist.

Right now, you’re probably making the same face I see all the time when I tell people I am studying to be a sex therapist – the one that indicates that you think I’m going to be a stripper - or worse; also known as the expression that has led me to start lying about what my career choice is. Well, not exactly lying. I have started telling people that I am going to be a relationship counselor, and that will be a part of my job, since it is safe to assume that most of the people I will be helping will be in a relationship of some sort, and that the sexual difficulties that some of my future clients will be having will be rooted in other areas of their dynamic that lie outside the bedroom.

That expression also reaffirms my career choice, as I see far too often that even grown adults still regard sex as something secretive and embarrassing…something people shouldn’t mention or talk about. Unfortunately, there is a real lack of appreciation and understanding going on about sex and sexuality, and I look forward to working with people to help them overcome those sorts of repressive thoughts. Furthermore, there are people who have physically and psychologically oriented sexual dysfunctions – men with impotence, or women who are rape survivors, for example - who can really benefit from sex therapy. Human sexuality is a true gift, and I want to help hurt people reclaim this vital part of themselves.

But, it’s simply easier to say that I plan to be a relationship counselor than explain all of that to someone who is now blushing and looking at me sideways, and is most likely less than interested in the whats and whys, anyway. So, that’s what I do.

Besides writing internet manifestos about sex therapy, I write other things, too! If you want to read stuff written by me, please visit the Thoughts section of this site.

I am also a photographer. I still call myself that, even though I have not used my camera in so long I am ashamed to calculate just how long it has actually been. But, photography is something I am good at, and it’s something I will always do, so the title stays. Eventaully I'll put some of my photographs up here for you to ooh and aah at.

And on another note, I would be remiss if I didn't take this opportunity to thank xeyr for all of his help setting this site up. See, it's all fun and games until a girl wants a website but doesn't know the first thing about how to make one and her unwitting friend offers to do it for her. But luckily, xeyr and I had a shared vision -- and that was to get me off his back. xeyr has put up with my bossy self for a long time, and he keeps refusing money and saying he's doing all of this work out of friendship because xeyr is obviously high on drugs. Or, maybe he's just kind. So, thanks, xeyr, for the 4 bazillionth time, for your talent, patience, and kindness (or, you know, for being intoxicated - whatever is most accurate).

I don’t pretend to be THAT fascinating, so this is probably enough for now. I will likely change or edit this periodically, so if you want to come back and look for more, be my guest! Thanks for reading this far, and happy surfing.

If you want to email me, send it to kapooku at kapooku dot com.

~ kapooku